Interesting Discussion on Sexual Temptation—

Contrary to popular belief, JO shared that in some cases, sexual temptation actually increases when Christian men get married.  The possible reason we came up with is something like the way we take advantage our of Christian freedom and use it as an excuse for indulgence, rather than enjoyment.  Those who grew up under rather repressed Christian homes, when they realize that all alcoholic consumption is not sin, they go all the way to the opposite extreme and actually go out of their way to have another beer other alcoholic beverages.  I’ve seen so many cases where Christians would go to a bar w/ an attitude of—‘look I’m a Christian and I drink!’

In the similar way, I guess when men, w/ very repressed sexual urges, are given this ‘unlimited’ privileges of marital status, may run into our tendency to go overboard and end up using this freedom as indulgence rather than enjoyment.  And soon enough, now that they have tasted what it’s really like w/ one woman, they end up thinking about other boundary defying possibilities…and may I remind you, many men who are married to one woman don’t necessarily stay, ‘one woman-man’.

All this is to say – marriage is a gift and a ‘way out’ of our burning desires.  But, it is not the ultimate remedy!  Ultimately, the issue is not our repressed desire, but the sinful of our hearts.  It’s no wonder how many men, even after being married to attractive women, still come under the bondage of pornography, and in some cases, adultery!  If sexual temptation is there as a single man, it will still be there as a married man.  We must get at the heart!